Real friendships rarely exist anymore. We talk about people that we encounter as our friends, but when asked to sacrifice a little time, an understanding ear, or even a little cash loaned in good faith, our "friend" becomes suddenly a mere nuisance. Friendships are no longer made out of trust or love. In fact the word "love" has been diminished to nothing more than a form of informal greeting, making it impossible to express true feelings to those close to you. Many relationships, especially in high school, are simply about status or personal gain. We see an individual that has social connections or objects of jealousy and we instinctively want their "friendship". And because of this there is no trust. We shake, we vow, we make oaths and swear on whatever god we choose to worship, but these once sacred acts are now only about 30% plausible.
Take away my xbox, my guitars, my music, computer, car, everything. An unconditional, genuine friend is valued above my very life.
This quote is from Boston legal, but despite it's comical, and possibly inappropriate origins, the content is still valid.
"People walk around today calling everyone their best friend. The term doesn't have any real meaning anymore. Mere acquaintances are lavished with hugs and kisses upon a second or, at most, third meeting. Birthday cards get passed around offices so everybody can scribble a snippet of sentimentality for a colleague they barely met. And everyone just loves everyone, as a result, when you tell somebody you love them today it isn't much heard."
You can't have 27 "best friends", and just because they gave you a ride home it doesn't mean you love them. I am writing this because about a week ago I was mortified to find myself telling someone I loved them simply because we enjoyed the same music. It's rubbing off on me and I want it to stop.
Final Note: If I have ever told you that I love you at any time in my life. I meant it.
Friday, February 5, 2010
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